Barn Cats V2

About a year and a half ago, I wrote about our barn cat BoJangles who was missing. I lamented about the heart wrenching job it is to own barn cats with all the dangers and troubles on the farm. We worried about him all the time! He got into tons of scuffles and close calls. He fought every cat that came close to the property, very loudly and usually in the middle of the night. But he would curl up in your lap by the fire pit and purr for hours. I am sad that Bo never returned to us like we wished. A barn cannot be without cats for too long or the mice will overrun it and then the snakes show up. If you have never seen how a horse reacts to a snake in or around their stall, consider yourself protected. So we had to rescue 2 little kittens from under my mother’s HVAC unit in downtown Charlotte and bring them out to the farm.

Baby Kittens

This was a trick! February of 2023 my mother sends me this picture of tiny kittens under her HVAC unit and we go on and on about what to do with them. We call animal control and they can’t take them because they are full. I don’t think she even got an answer from them for like 2 weeks. We decide to leave them alone and monitor until they were big enough to be away from their mother. Momma Kitty moves them to the neighbors house, probably because my mother has one of the most obnoxious little dogs you could ever imagine. And I am on the farm just hoping and wishing BoJangles comes home.

Finally, in April, I decide that we are going to need a barn cat for the upcoming summer and I cannot keep holding out hope for Bo. He would have been home already if he could. He would never willingly leave his barn. Mom talks to her neighbor, who by this point has been feeding them tuna cans and says he can’t keep up with all of them. I agree to catch 2 and bring them to the barn and the neighbor will keep 2 while mom and dad are also still around. Have you ever tried to catch a feral kitten?? Pro tip…do it much more before they are 3 months old! It took us over an hour, moving a bunch of junk in the neighbors backyard, and one seriously determined teenager of mine with gloves and blankets, but we finally got them. Boy were they angry! I wish I had taken a video of that crazy teenager crawling around through junk to catch them!

Once we got them to the barn, I realize I have no idea what I’m doing! I have only had like 3 cats in my whole life and they were indoor only. You know, liter box and a pile of food and you may not see them for 4 days. These kittens were out in the wild, far away from their siblings, and there are dangerous things on our farm. I had to come up with a plan! I took it step by step. And everyone told me I was wrong! We started with them in a dog kennel in the tack room of the barn with a litter box and food. Once they got too big (and WAY too messy) I had to seal up the cat door on the tack room and let them out in the room. They hid all the time, sometimes so well I had to search for a while to find them. As they got a little older, and it turned colder in the winter, I would close the big barn doors and open the tack room door so they could play in the barn. They were super timid, but began to run around and play. They even started killing mice! I had a lovely present in the middle of the barn one morning.

As the weather warmed up and the kittens turned a year old, I knew I couldn’t keep them closed in the barn forever. And everyone still kept telling me I was wrong! That first day of opening the barn doors scared me to death! But I think it scared them even more! Pretty soon they were following me to the pasture as I took out and brought in horses. For a while, I closed the doors at night to keep them safe, but that had to end as the weather warmed. Mick and Chick now have full reign of the farm, but they don’t venture too far from the barn and the safety of each other and their tack room. They don’t cuddle by the fire like Bo, but they are my favorites. They watch the farm from the barn doors day and night, tell me long stories while I clean stalls, and keep all the rodents out of the barn. I can pet and snuggle Chick when she’s looking for food. Every now and then I get a little nose pet in on Mick. But they are still crazy and feral as can be.

I am impressed with myself how I figured this out. They are totally dedicated to that tack room in the barn being their home. Yes, there are scary things out here that could hurt, but they have a safe place to run to for protection. BoJangles used to come to our back door and play with the indoor cat through the sliding glass door. Mick and Chick barely come down the driveway most of the time. But maybe that will change with time. They are their own little adorable personalities. And this farm is theirs to manage. Bojangles left them a home and a role to step right into.

Mr. BoJangles

I learned a few lessons this past year from this experience. One, everything happens for a reason. Two, the way I do it may not be the same as the way others would do it, but this is my show not theirs. And three, the 3day/3 week/3 month rule we always talk about in animal rescue does not apply to feral cats!

I’m on a Mission

For the last five years, I have been on a mission to create a charitable legacy from my real estate business with Giving Tree Realty and catering to cats and dogs. I have learned so much!

Number one, rescue is effing hard! It is hard, no matter at what level you participate. The people that volunteer , and stay with our rescue are some of the toughest, kindest, most endearing humans I have ever had the pleasure to meet on this planet! A lot of people like to judge the volunteers, and especially the management of a nonprofit, but I see it a lot like I see parenting. You have no idea, what they do or what they go through! So in my opinion, the only thing I can do is offer whatever support they ask for. I often reach out to our Director and say “what can I do for you?” To which she always replies already do so much. But literally, these animals would not survive if the volunteers and donators at catering to cats and dogs we’re not super committed to the work that we do.

Number two, I’ve learned that people don’t know how to help. Everyone says “oh that’s such a cool concept”, when I explain to them how Giving Tree works, but they don’t know what to do to help. So here’s how it works… for every home that I sell Giving Tree donates 1.5% of gross commission to the rescue in my name. The more homes that I buy and sell the more money the rescue makes! Last year I donated about $1500. This year I’m on a mission to raise $5000! I’ve gotten really close to that number in years past, and I believe this year is going to be really busy in real estate. But what if you don’t want to buy or sell a house, but you still want to help the rescue? Referrals. Referrals. Referrals. I will donate $25 for every referral that you send my way! Click the link above to register –or– click the links below to our social media. But help doesn’t stop there! Spread the word! Like, share, comment, and interact with my social media. Follow the rescue. Follow Giving Tree Realty. Social media, for all its faults, has a way of connecting people with like-minded ideas!

Number three, I’ve learned that I truly wouldn’t do this business. Any other way! Real estate is one of those things that you can be super successful at. I have seen the success and the failure. But I completely believe that your true fulfillment comes from Giving. I can handle all of the stress and anxiety that this industry brings a little easier when I know that I am saving furry lives like the ones below WHILE helping clients navigate the ever-changing market.

For some reason that I don’t understand, agents leave our firm all the time. I think in their mind they believe that they will continue the charitable legacy that they begin and Giving Tree Realty on their own (or they don’t care about the charity and didn’t belong there in the first place). I have seen firsthand how they become just the “agent”. Successful? Probably! Especially if they took any of our training classes to get there. Maybe they make a donation here and there. But it’s not always about the donation. It’s about posts like this that get the mission out not only for Giving Tree Realty but also for Catering to Cats and Dogs. It’s about the partnership that’s created between the business world and the nonprofit world. It’s about the partnership that’s created with the people involved in both institutions. And for me, it’s about doing something more that I could ever imagine!

Happy new year to everyone! I am looking forward to a successful and prosperous 2024!

Barn Cats

Have you ever met a barn cat? They can be a little ellusive. Usually they are wounded or scarred, stay away from human touch, and hide in plain sight. We inherited a barn cat named Mr. Bojangles when we bought this farm. When I first moved here as a renter, he welcomed me with loud cries for food and scary hiding spots in the rafters of my car port. But he was nothing like most barn cats I had known. Unfortunately, he is missing. We are worried and confused but still a little hopeful because he is such a special barn cat.

We always had barn cats on the farm I grew up on with my grandparents. They lived in the basement at night and roamed the farm in the day. I do remember one story of a particular cat who climed into the engine of my grandfathers old Dodge and wasn’t found until after he started the car to go to work that night. I don’t remember any of their names, though I know they had names. And I don’t remember ever snuggling or playing with them.

That is what made Bojangles, or Bo, so different. He was the best fire side cuddler on the farm. If it was cold and you had a fire going, he would curl up in your lap for a little snooze. Most evenings, fire or not, he would come to the house for some loving and an extra scoop of dry cat food, though he had just gotten a can of wet food in the tack room for supper. He loved to be picked up and cuddled like a baby, but only by me and my hubby. At our new farm house, he would sit at the back sliding glass door most nights taunting the inside cat into a game of show and tell. She would show him her toys and he would pretend he didn’t care. When we were new to his farm he had what we called a broken purr. It was rough and incomplete. We always said it was because he didn’t get enough practice. Over the years it fixed itself, or we fixed it, with all the loving he got. He greeted newcomers, human and animal, with caution at first, but quickly taught you how to respect his wishes.

I have always said he will be the subject of a childrens book one day. When the lady built this barn she adopted him and brought him here as a barn cat, but he soon won her heart and she decided to take him to her house for him to live as a house cat. One day, he got out and they couldn’t find him. A few weeks later he turned up back at the barn. This was his home. He chose it. Which is why it feels so empty now that he’s gone. It’s been 2 weeks now and there have been no signs of him. But I haven’t completely given up hope.

He’s been gone for a day or two before, but this is unusual. He’s lived on this farm for 10 years or more and avoided every preditor known to man, and probably some we don’t see. I have watched him run from a fight straight up a tree. He’s tough, but most of all he is smart and fast. I don’t think any of that changed. I don’t see him loosing speed or timing, even if he’s gotten older. He still doesn’t trust people or animals enough to get in trouble. We had a foster dog that didn’t know what to think of this big fluffy cat that came so close to him. The foster dog, Felix, was old and had spent a few years roaming the woods of a neighborhood when we picked him up. We were sure he had seen cats, but he didn’t know what to do with them. It was almost as if they had terrorized him and so he had to chase them away from his food. Bo just sat there and let Felix sniff him. He didn’t make a move or run or hiss. And Felix gently opened his mouth slowly around Bo’s neck. Bo was giving him the benefit of the doubt. But he quickly taught the old man to be a little more respectful.

If he’s lost, I know he can take care of himself. Sure, we feed him. We actually feed him a lot because he always looks so skinny. It’s a true testament to what an active lifestyle can do. But he’s resourceful enough to feed himself. And he absolutely LOVED to show you. He presented us with twin chipmunks laid perfectly side-by-side in a horse stall, birds of all sizes on the door mat, baby bunnies one after another when praised for a being a good boy, and more mice than you can count which he would swallow whole while our dog watched with great envy. If he’s been captured by someone else trying to turn him into a couch potato, he might get out again and come back. Or he might choose the indoor lifestyle for a bit!

At the end of the day, he’s a barn cat. We should envy their freedom. He can do whatever he wants, go wherever he wants, and be whatever he wants. There are people that love him and respect his independence right here on this farm. With that respect comes the unknown, a little bit of sorrow, and maybe some fear. Barn cats come and go sometimes without the help or permission of humans. I guess that’s what makes them so special.

Heart Breaks

You learn how to deal with heart breaks. Sometimes it’s when hours of training seems to have evaporated into thin air in two seconds. But always it is when we outlive the ones we love the most.

Consider your life span. My goal is to be as cool as my Grandma who lived to be 93. If so, that’s enough time to outlive an average of 8-10 pets, assuming I only have one at a time, and very few people are capable of that. There are some that become part of our souls, whether because they are around so long or exist at a time that’s so important. And some we don’t even realize we will miss until we do. I wonder if it’s worth it often. Do I really want to live through that heart break over again in a few years? Is it worth my tears to have spent all of that time and energy and emotion  and power and money on them? Do they really value it? Do I really need it? Does it make any difference for them or me?

The answer is yes! To all of them…yes!

This is a story about Kate…

Kate is not a sweet little girl to most. She came to the rescue at about 1 year old, maybe 2.  I was in the middle of a terrible divorce and ugly custody battle. I had nothing to my name. I barely had a job, barely could pay rent, barely could feed myself and my kids. My best friend, who knows me better than anyone, called one day and said, “you should foster this cat.” She’s crazy, literally. My best friend and this cat! I wasn’t a very sweet girl then either.

I pick her up at a storage facility, where the rescue gives me everything I will need, litter box, food bowls, etc, because I am too poor to buy any of it. We are fine. She meets the kids. She is fine. My 6 year old carries her around like a football. She is fine. On a Saturday, I put her in a carrier and take her to an adoption event. She is fine. Person number 1 walks over to pet her and she turns into a she-devil that will tear you to shreds and eat you from the inside out. We try every Saturday, at great sacrifice to many because of work schedules, school schedules, custody days, and crazy ex-husbands. She literally bites at least two people a day. They have to put a sign on her kennel that says CAUTION! At home, my six year old still carries her around like a football and she couldn’t care less. Finally the rescue calls and says, “would you like to make Kate a part of your family?”

“Oh, no! I can’t afford the adoption fees!”

“Oh! We’ll waive those. Please just don’t bring her back to an adoption event.”

What?! Seriously?! I don’t want a cat! I can’t even feed myself every day of the week!

KateFive years later she is the matriarch of this crazy farm life we lead. She is  the OG, seriously, Original Gangster! She will allow you to pet her, purr sweetly while you do, then attack your ankle viciously while you walk away. When her bowl is empty at night she gets on the headboard and throws whatever item she can find on your head to wake you up. She has taught 1 crazy, stray hound dog how to live with a cat, and 1 cute, baby kitten how to survive a tough sisterhood. She explained to an outdoor OG the difference between life on the inside and life on the outside. She relished her peace and quiet when we were all away on vacation. She hid in a few pocketbooks, boxes, and drawers. She sometimes made a break for it out the door, but soon realized how stupid that idea was. And always let mommy love her, even if she completely disagreed. Because for some reason Mommy was always different.

And then today she is diagnosed with a non-curable, non-diagnosable, non-treatable condition called FIP, Feline Infectious Peritonitis. The fluid around her lungs can be removed, but it will come back. The fluid in her abdomen can be tapped, but it will come back. The mass in her intestines is likely not cancerous but can’t be fixed. She is dehydrated and will need IV fluids. Her breathing is labored so an oxygen kennel will be needed. So IV fluids, oxygen tank kennel thingy, syringes of fluid from her chest and abdomen for this original OG, ‘I’d rather bite you than look at you’, precious little girl who may or may not have kept me alive through the roughest part of my life…  Only to extend her days on this Earth for maybe a week? No thanks, she said. I’m good. I got you through when you needed it. Now you can get me through this. We straight.

And just like that, heart broken.

If you know anything about trauma, you know that healing from it is a very long process. You don’t look at how far you’ve come in 10 years and say that’s that. I, at least, remember every day of those horrible years. Time doesn’t fly when you are being abused and scared. Some counselors have called it PTSD, and I get that. But now, when I remember them I am hurting for what they were and for the little ball of kitty fur that walked me through it. I will miss my little gangster. And I would keep her over and over, even knowing today how much it hurts. Maybe, we are the ones worth it, those of us that save them. We deserve the love and care they give us. Maybe it is their job in this universe to remind us that we deserve love and snuggles and little sandpaper kisses. And maybe we needed to know that. I needed to know that I was worth it.